Imagine being Joseph: your life's plans are upended when you find out your fiancée is miraculously pregnant. Despite the shock and societal judgment, Joseph's response is one of profound humility and faith. He accepts his role in God's plan, providing for Mary and Jesus with steadfast love and without seeking accolades. Today, humility might mean being the family's unsung hero—acknowledging our mistakes, prioritizing our family's needs, and embracing tasks without awaiting recognition. Joseph's silent, protective strength is a model for all of us in practicing humility in our daily lives.
Actionable Steps: Commit to a "Joseph Week" where you take on additional responsibilities at home, offering your spouse some much-needed rest or personal time.
St. Maximilian Kolbe's story of bravery reaches its pinnacle in Auschwitz, where he volunteers to die in place of a stranger. But his courage was evident long before—through his unwavering faith and dedication to spreading God's word, even when faced with hostility. Kolbe's choice in Auschwitz—a place of despair—teaches us that true bravery often means standing firm in our faith and making sacrifices for others, regardless of the consequences. It prompts us to defend our beliefs and protect those in need, inspired by Kolbe's example.
Actionable Steps: Identify a situation where you've felt pressured to compromise your values. Commit to one act of bravery that upholds your faith or moral principles, even if it's uncomfortable.
The Good Samaritan parable challenges us to see beyond societal divisions and prejudices, to help anyone in need. It's a call to action, urging us to be the neighbor who stops to help, not the one who passes by. In our modern context, this means looking for Christ in everyone we meet and acting to alleviate their suffering. This Lent, let's strive to be more present, more empathetic, and more willing to reach out in kindness, breaking down the walls of indifference.
Actionable Steps: Make an effort to connect with someone outside your usual social circle. Show kindness and understanding to someone who might hold different beliefs or come from a different background.
Franz Jägerstätter faced the ultimate test of integrity when he refused to fight for the Nazis, a decision that cost him his life. His unwavering conviction in the face of certain death reminds us that integrity isn't just about the big moments; it's also about the small, everyday choices we make to live out our Catholic faith authentically. Jägerstätter's story is a powerful call to examine where our integrity is tested and to align our actions with our faith, ensuring we live truthfully in all aspects of life.
Actionable Steps: Reflect on areas of your life where you feel your integrity is tested. Make a conscious effort to align your daily choices with your faith, whether it's in business dealings, family life, or social activities.
St. Thomas More's choice to prioritize God's law over the king's demands, even at the cost of his life, exemplifies the virtue of conviction. His story is particularly relevant in today's world, where moral relativism often challenges our faith and principles. More's steadfastness teaches us the importance of standing firm in our convictions, ensuring our beliefs are the foundation of our actions.
Actionable Steps: Talk with your family about the importance of conviction, using More's story as inspiration. Challenge yourself to stand by your beliefs, even when it's tempting to remain silent.
The Ulma family's decision to shelter Jews at great personal risk highlights the strength found in unity and shared purpose. Their story is a witness to the power of family, faith, and sacrificial love in the face of danger. It inspires us to consider how our families can be a force for good, standing together in faith and love to make a difference in the world.
Actionable Steps: Start a family service project, finding ways to serve others together. Discuss how you can live out your faith as a family by identifying local needs or causes you're passionate about. Whether it's volunteering at a soup kitchen, organizing a neighborhood clean-up, or supporting a family in need, let these acts of service be a shared mission.
This Lent, let's not just go through the motions. Inspired by these examples of sacrificial love, we're called to act—making tangible changes in our lives that reflect our commitment to love as Christ loves. It's about stepping up as husbands and fathers, making sacrifices that matter, and strengthening our families and communities through our actions. Let's make this Lent a starting point for a deeper journey into sacrificial love, transforming our lives and those around us.
]]>Traditionally, Lent is about sacrifice. What are we giving up this time? Chocolate, so we miss out on the kids' stash? Coffee, so we're grumpy before Mass? But what if Lent is also a call to deepen our faith, to make our family bonds stronger, and to embrace our role as spiritual guides in our homes? I propose we see Lent not just as a time for personal sacrifice but as a period for spiritual growth and family unity.
The essence of being a good Catholic dad during Lent (and beyond) involves more than just personal sacrifices. It's about leading by example, showing our kids what faith in action looks like. This Lent, let’s introduce or reinforce family prayer time. Something as simple as praying the rosary together can bring a tangible feel to our intentions and make faith a living part of our family’s daily routine.
Consider dedicating a small, quiet corner of your home for prayer or reflection. This doesn’t have to be elaborate—a simple home altar with a crucifix can serve as a focal point for your family’s spiritual activities. This physical space can help remind us and our children of the Lenten journey we’re on together, making faith a constant presence in our lives.
Lent offers a perfect opportunity to build new traditions that can last a lifetime. How about a weekly game where everyone performs an act of kindness and shares their story? Winner gets out of doing dishes for a week. It’s a fun way to teach our kids about empathy and generosity, plus, who wouldn’t want a break from dish duty?
Whether it’s volunteering at a local shelter or making care packages for those in need, these activities can teach our kids the importance of empathy and generosity, key components of our Catholic faith.
By focusing on these actions, we not only draw our families closer to each other but also closer to God. This hands-on approach to faith can help instill in our children a deep sense of what it means to live a Christian life, showing them that faith is not just about what we give up, but what we give to others.
This Lent, let's challenge ourselves to enrich our family's spiritual life in meaningful ways. By integrating faith into our daily lives through prayer, service, and the creation of a sacred space, we can offer our families a richer, more fulfilling Lenten experience.
The traditions we establish and the examples we set during this time have the potential to leave a lasting impression on our children. They learn to see Lent not just as a time of deprivation or a countdown to Easter chocolate but as a season rich with opportunities for growth and giving. This shift in perspective can transform the way they view their faith and their role in the community, setting them on a path of lifelong compassion and service.
As we step into this Lenten season, let’s embrace our role as fathers and spiritual leaders in our homes. Let's show our families that this time can be about so much more than what we give up—it's about what we gain together.
This Lent, let's not just go through the motions. Let's make it a transformative experience that brings our families closer to each other and closer to God. By doing so, we can ensure that the lessons of Lent will resonate within our homes long after the season has passed, fostering a deep and lasting faith in our children and ourselves.
Here’s to a Lent filled with meaningful moments, new family traditions, and maybe a few extra cups of coffee on Sundays. Because let's be honest, some traditions are just too hard to give up entirely.
Mary’s whole story is about being brave enough to start fresh, to say "yes" to huge, life-changing stuff. And that "yes" wasn't loud or showy; it was humble and strong. It's got me thinking about how we chase success or get caught up in being the 'big man.' But real strength? It's more about being like Mary - grounded, humble, ready to step up when it counts. As we celebrate her solemnity, it's like we're all being invited to find that quiet strength in ourselves.
Mary's life is full of lessons that still hook us, full of real struggles and deep faith. Think of her as that morning star, that last bright light before the dawn, guiding us through the night. Whenever we're facing tough times or feeling lost, reflecting on her can remind us that there's always hope, always a new day on the horizon.
Inspired by Mary's strength, the Mary’s Armor rosary is designed to be a companion in your daily battles. Each bead, each prayer, is a step towards fortifying your spirit and grounding your intentions. Think of it as not just a prayer tool but a symbol of commitment to walking a path of virtue and strength, just like Mary did.
Incorporating the Mary's Armor Rosary into your daily routine can transform your approach to the new year. Whether it's a morning prayer to start the day or a reflective moment after work, each time you hold this rosary, you're reminded of your purpose and the protective embrace of Mary. It's about armoring up with faith, ready to face whatever the day brings with a heart full of grace.
Living better and being better - it's a journey made up of small, consistent steps. Think about the little ways you can embody Mary's virtues. Maybe it's being more patient at home or at work, actively participating in community service, or simply offering a kind word to someone in need. These actions might seem modest, but they're the building blocks of a life lived well.
And let's talk about the ripple effect. When you start making these changes, it's not just your life that's impacted. Like the gentle touch of a pebble on water, your actions spread, influencing your family, friends, and community. Imagine a 2024 where each of us takes up this call to action, inspired by Mary's example. The collective impact could be extraordinary!
As you reflect on Mary's life and your own path, remember that this journey of renewal is continuous. It's not about a one-time change but a sustained commitment to growth and improvement. The Solemnity of Mary, Mother of God, marks not just a day of celebration but a yearly milestone to assess, reflect, and recommit to this journey.
Incorporate moments of reflection into your routine. Use the Mary's Armor Rosary as a tool not just for prayer but for meditation on your progress and goals. Ask yourself regularly: How am I embodying the virtues I admire in Mary? How am I living out my faith in tangible ways? And most importantly, how can I continue to grow and improve?
This year, challenge yourself to live out the virtues of humility, strength, and unwavering faith. Make this the year you not only set goals but achieve them, transforming not just your life but also positively impacting those around you.
Are you ready to take on the new year with a heart full of courage and a spirit ready for renewal? Let's step forward together, armored with faith and guided by the star of Mary, into a year of growth, action, and profound transformation. Here's to a 2024 filled with purpose, connection, and spiritual strength! Let's do this!
]]>I am grateful for many things, but most of the things on that list bring me joy so gratitude is easy in that sense. It becomes much more difficult when considering the PIECES of my life that I don’t love.
PIECES is an acronym created by Dr. Peter Malinoski to capture the various parts of our life that we do not choose. These pieces make up a good chunk of what we pray about, worry about, and often loath:
In Fr. Phillippe’s book, Interior Freedom, he talks about three possible attitudes we can have towards our life, and as Dr. Peter argues, the PIECES of our life:
It is in accepting and embracing those PIECES where the fruit of gratitude is born. To be clear, accepting a piece of my life as a gift that can help me grow in holiness is NOT the same thing as believing a lie that the piece is objectively good in and of itself.
Take for example, a loved one who has left the church. Acceptance looks like acknowledging that their sanctification is in danger, that God is in charge, that you have a part to play and He will reveal it to you. Acceptance also includes surrendering to the reality that you do not have the power to control the piece, and you don’t have the knowledge to see the true fruits born from this broken piece.
When I am most frustrated, overwhelmed, anxious, or discouraged it is usually connected to an attitude of resignation or rebellion against one of these pieces. In my youth, the impulse to rebel was much stronger. I would classify it as overt rebellion, an active intentional rebellion. At this stage in my life, rebellion is more subconscious. It often stems from a lack of trust in God, and it looks like clinging to some lesser good instead of accepting that difficult piece.
This delicate balance between resignation and acceptance can be really challenging. It’s not a one-time thing. It’s a daily struggle. This is where I see the real potential power of the rosary for all of us. Is it good to pray for an end to abortion? Yes. What about an end to Christian Persecution? Yes. Human Trafficking? Yes. All of the above, and if praying for those things alone grants you peace then by all means stay the course. For the rest of you who pray the rosary daily, and struggle to experience gratitude and joy for the broken pieces in your life, consider the following approach.
Every time you find yourself distracted during the rosary: name the distraction. Then, acknowledge it as something important, an insight worth praying over. As your fingers continue to cycle through the beads, let the light of the rosary illuminate this important piece of your life. Do not problem solve, do not attempt to fix it. If you find yourself hyper-focused on “fixing” the problem, you’ll need to go a layer deeper. Ask the part of you that’s holding onto the need for this piece of your life to be fixed, “what are you afraid will happen if this doesn’t get fixed?” or “what does fixed look like?”.
Then be honest with Mary, “I don’t trust that you care about this piece of my life more than I do. I don’t trust that it will be good for me or anyone else. I don’t want it in my life. I hate it! It scares me, makes me angry, disgusts me, overwhelms me…make it go away! But not my will. Help me see the part I can play in this broken piece of my life, and help me surrender the rest to you. I do not want to surrender it, but I want to trust you. I want to believe God is bigger than this broken piece. I want to believe that God knows the good He can draw from it, and that good is greater than the brokenness I see. Help my unbelief”.
Pause your rosary to say this prayer. If that prayer takes up all the time you had for the rosary, praise God that the rosary brought you into such a beautiful place of intimate prayer and conversation with God through Mary. Repeat this process until you have found acceptance with that broken piece of your life. Then, move on to the next one.
I truly believe that this recipe for praying the rosary can lead to an abundance of gratitude for the broken pieces in our life that consume us and fuel our anger, our fear, and our anxiety. Practicing gratitude will in turn lead to joy as we learn to develop trust God's providence in our lives.
Make a list of 3-5 broken pieces in your life that are outside your control, that you’d be open to feeling grateful for this Christmas. Let those broken pieces be the focal point of your prayers this Advent Season.
]]>As we continue our journey through the curated Christmas Gift Guide, we transition from the intellectual feasts of Part 1's must-read books to the tangible expressions of faith and craftsmanship in Part 2.
This installment is dedicated to the Catholic man who not only seeks wisdom in pages but also manifests his values through the art that adorns his home, the tools he carries, and the projects he undertakes.
From the sacred corners of home decor to the practical essentials of everyday carry, and the empowering world of DIY, these gifts are chosen to inspire, serve, and stand the test of time.
Just as a well-loved book becomes a companion in thought, these items are meant to accompany a man in action, reflection, and prayer, weaving the fabric of a life lived with intention.
Navigating the realm of home aesthetics, we delve into Art & Home Decor, a domain where men may not naturally venture. Yet, it's a significant one, especially in traditional Catholic households where the artistry of home-making often falls to the woman. It's rare for a man to select his own artwork, but here, I'll share my personal recommendations and insights.
1. Baritus Catholic: His prayer cards are available on our website, but his broader collection of artwork on Etsy is truly commendable. I'm so invested in his work that, following a recent makeover of my boys' rooms, his pieces are front and center.
2. Elizabeth Zelasko: With her fine art background, offers both traditional and innovative pieces. Her iconography is exceptional, and she also presents a variety of other styles, like her remarkable pencil drawings and paintings.
3. Kate Capato: I haven't actually purchased any of her paintings, but she's got some pretty great work!
4. Etsy Artisan Finds: While I can't personally vouch for these artists, Etsy is a treasure trove of talent where you can discover pieces that resonate with your personal style. Avoid the mass-produced and opt instead for artwork that supports the artist and enriches your home.
For instance, an oil painting carries a certain character that might appeal more to men, with its rich, dramatic colors. Art that captures historical events or embodies a vision for life can be powerful. Whether it's a scene of the Battle of Lepanto or a father and son fishing, choose art that reflects your values and aspirations.
1. Pocket Knife: Every man should have a good pocket knife. I carry a buck knife everywhere, tied with a paracord loop and a Saint Joseph medal. It's simple, made in the US, and you can find one for about $10 to $20. It's a valuable tool, and it's something my boys know I always have on me.
2. A Good Watch: My favorite company is Vaer. Their watches are assembled in the US, and the craftsmanship is extraordinary. They're not cheap, but they're an investment that will last a lifetime. Plus, you can swap out the bands for different looks—fancy for special occasions, silicone for everyday wear, and cloth for casual outings.
3. Heirloom Quality Rosaries: Everyone needs a good rosary! Our rosaries are going to last a lifetime. A rosary worthy of being passed down to your children.
A pocket knife, a good watch, a rosary —all of these things are items that can be given to children to remember their dad or their grandfather.
For the man who values the satisfaction of building and fixing, who takes pride in the work of his hands, here are gifts that not only serve practical needs but also inspire and endure.
1. Cordless Drill Set: A cordless drill set is extremely valuable, especially for a husband with aspirations to be handy. Dewalt is a great choice; they're not cheap, but a good cordless drill will last you probably 20 years. The set usually includes an impact driver and a drill, which are essential for different tasks around the house. Look for the MADE IN THE USA badge. Both Dewalt and Craftsman have USA product lines.
2. Japanese Pull Saw: Less expensive but extremely versatile is a Japanese pull saw. Unlike most American saws that cut on the push, this one cuts on the pull. The blades are phenomenal, and it's not just for fine woodworking—I often use it to trim trees. It's two-sided, with small teeth on one side for fine cuts and large teeth on the other for bulk cutting. It's a clever and versatile gift idea that offers a lot of utility. My favorite saw is an old crosscut saw my grandfather gave me before he passed away. It’s a tool, yes. It’s also a reminder of the heritage and history of woodworking in my family.
These gifts are not merely to be used but to be cherished, potentially becoming part of your family's story for generations to come. Whether it's a piece of art that inspires daily, a tool that builds the future, or a rosary that deepens faith, each recommendation is made with the hope that it will enrich the lives of Catholic men and their loved ones.
May these gifts bring joy, reflection, and a deeper sense of connection this Christmas and beyond!
]]>Every man is unique, and with millions of books out there, it can be a challenge to pick the right one. If you know me, you'll know that I believe in the power of good literature, both for personal development and leisure. While I personally struggle with leisure reading, audiobooks have been my remedy. Whether it's through Audible or a simple library card, it's essential for men to make time for themselves and dive into a good book.
1. The Lord of the Rings Trilogy
This timeless classic is my all-time favorite. I find myself revisiting it every couple of years, and each time, it resonates with a different aspect of my life. The story is captivating, inspiring, and has even brought me to tears. If you haven't delved into this masterpiece, now's the time.
2. Last of the Breed by Louis L'Amour
I stumbled upon Louis L'Amour's works on Audible, and they quickly became some of my favorites. These Western tales are more than just stories; they paint a picture of a virtuous man, in the right place at the right time, always prevailing against the odds. While L'Amour has penned numerous tales, each one is a testament to virtue, intelligence, and skill. If you're looking for action-packed stories where the good guy always wins, L'Amour's are a must-read.
Of all of L'Amour's works, "Last of the Breed" stands out as my top recommendation. The story is simply remarkable, and I can't recommend it enough. Dive into this tale and get lost in its captivating narrative.
History is extremely important, and our education system does a poor job of helping children find the truth, goodness, and beauty in our history both as Americans and as Catholic/Christians.
History is fascinating, but you need a good storyteller.
Enter David McCullough. He's my favorite historical author and has written some of the greatest history books in modern times. Several have truly resonated with me:
1. John Adams: A deep dive into the life of our second president.
2. 1776: A captivating account of a pivotal year in our nation's history.
3. The Pioneers: Stories of the brave souls who ventured into the American West.
4. Truman: It's 30 hours long in its unabridged form, but even the abridged version is extremely valuable.
5. The Wright Brothers: A remarkable tale of the pioneers of aviation.
What's great is that all of these are available on Audible and at the library. Personally, I use Libby (an Audible-like app that lets you checkout audio books from your local library for free). Many of these best-selling titles have an abridged version, so there's no shame in opting for that if you're pressed for time.
I've listened to and read most of David McCullough's works, and I cannot recommend them enough.
Many great Catholics have recommendations for spiritual formation books, but, I'd be remiss if I didn't mention a few that have deeply impacted me.
Jacques Philippe is an author I hold in high regard. His books delve deep into the spiritual journey:
1. Interior Freedom: A guide to finding peace and liberation within oneself.
2. Searching for and Maintaining Peace: A reflection on the importance of inner peace and how to achieve it.
3. Another gem in this category is Difficulties in Mental Prayer by Dom Eugene Boylan. It's a profound exploration of the challenges and rewards of deep spiritual reflection.
Then you have the category of children's literature that is good enough for men to read either by themselves or with their children. I have read several on my own, AND I love reading them to our children.
1. Wingfeather Saga by Andrew Peterson: This is a four-book series. It's a Christian construct with the concept of the Maker and an evil one. It's a fantasy book set in an imaginary world with imaginary creatures. It brought me to tears several times. It's totally original and just a remarkable story.
2. Viking Quest: It's a five-book series, explicitly Christian, the main characters are from Ireland and they are captured by Vikings. It's a story of faith and conversion.
3. The Winged Watchman by Hilda Van Stockholm: Set during World War Two in Holland during the Nazi occupation. Just fantastic!
4. The Saintly Outlaw: This one is about Robin Hood. Phenomenal! There's also an audio drama, The Legends of Robin Hood, written for men in my opinion.
5. Saint Thomas More from Ignatius Press: There are probably 50 of these. All fantastic! I enjoy reading these as an adult.
6. Will Wilder by Raymond Arroyo: It's about a Catholic family with a lineage of basically superpowers. It brings the spiritual war into the physical world.
7. Prince Martin series: A graphic novel series. Each one is longer and more outstanding than the previous. Written in rhymes!
8. Chronicles of Narnia: Everyone should read these, not only The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe.
9. Voyage Comics: There’s the Phantom Phoenix, but they have others. Great illustrations and awesome Catholic storylines.
You're not going to find these at Barnes & Noble. I have spent hundreds of hours scouring the corners of the internet over the course of 12 years being a dad trying to teach our boys the faith in a masculine way.
The reason I don't like the book series available at typical bookstores is because there's a worldview that fosters anger, resentment, arrogance, and selfishness. The main character is a hero, and everyone else (especially the adults) are incompetent morons. The stories recommended above foster relationships, adventure, creativity, and all the good characteristics we want our boys to develop.
Every book I've mentioned holds a special place in my heart. I share them with you in the hope that they'll touch your life as profoundly as they've touched mine.
Keep an eye out for the next installment of this ultimate Christmas Gift Guide for Catholic Men, Husbands and Fathers. [Check out Part 2 here!]
Marian devotions stretch back to the earliest days of Christianity, evolving through time and cultures. They're rooted in Scripture and Tradition, but they are also living testaments to how believers have found solace and guidance through different aspects of Mary's life and virtues.
While the Rosary remains one of the most well-known devotions, Marian feasts like the Immaculate Conception and Our Lady of Lourdes each offer their unique spiritual richness. Among them, the Feast of Our Lady of Sorrows holds a special place.
Celebrated every September 15th, it zeroes in on seven heart-wrenching events in Mary's life, known as the Seven Sorrows. They invite us to look at faith through the lens of real, raw human experience—pain, loss, and, most importantly, resilience. We're finding strength in Our Lady who faced unthinkable hardship and emerged unbroken.
1. Find a quiet spot.
2. Go through the Seven Sorrows of Mary and think about how they apply to your daily struggles.
a. The Prophecy of Simeon (Luke 2:25-35): Shortly after the birth of Jesus, when Mary and Joseph took the infant Jesus to the temple, they met Simeon, who predicted that a "sword will pierce" Mary's soul.
Reflect on the anticipation of challenges and how you can emotionally prepare for them.
b. The Flight into Egypt (Matthew 2:13-15): Mary and Joseph fled to Egypt with the baby Jesus after an angel warned them that King Herod intended to kill the infants in that area.
Consider the sacrifices you’ve made for your family's safety and well-being.
c. The Loss of the Child Jesus in the Temple (Luke 2:41-50): Jesus, at the age of twelve, was lost for three days when the family visited Jerusalem for the Passover.
Ponder on times you’ve felt lost or distanced from your spiritual connection, and how you found your way back.
d. Mary Meets Jesus on the Way to Calvary (Luke 23:27-31; John 19:17): While Jesus carried His cross to Calvary, Mary encountered Him on the way and shared in His suffering.
Think about shared sufferings with loved ones and the emotional strength it takes to endure.
e. Jesus Dies on the Cross (John 19:25-30): Mary watched as Jesus was crucified and died.
Meditate on life’s ultimate sacrifices and what they mean for your spiritual journey.
f. The Pieta: Jesus is Taken Down from the Cross (Psalm 130; Luke 23:50-54; John 19:31-37): After the crucifixion, the dead body of Jesus was taken down and placed in Mary's arms.
Reflect on the times you've held the burden of loss and how you’ve coped with it.
g. Jesus is Laid in the Tomb (Isaiah 53:8; Luke 23:50-56; John 19:38-42; Mark 15:40-47): Mary experiences another wave of sorrow as Jesus is laid in the tomb.
Think about the concept of finality and new beginnings, even in the face of sorrow.
As a cradle Catholic, I sometimes overlook the thought of having a personal conversion. Don’t get me wrong, my faith has waxed and waned but I never viewed it as a falling away, conversion or reversion. However, upon reflecting on the devotion of the Seven Sorrows, it struck me that this devotion has played a significant role in my spiritual journey, and just how rocky, bumpy and messy the journey was and still is.
While I won’t dive too far into detail, it was around 2010 and in the midst of trying unsuccessfully to loosen the bonds of habitual sin that I felt a stirring to start praying the rosary. During that time, I came across a prayer booklet on the devotion to the Seven Sorrow of Mary and it drew me in.
What I learned and still need to apply daily is that the circumstances of our life are rarely easy. We can be very quick to feel sorry for ourselves or even complain about real or perceived problems. However, I found that regularly meditating on the Seven Sorrows of Mary changed my view of life's struggles and most importantly, gave meaning to them.
If Mary could carry these sorrows in her heart but still live with joy, then I could do the same! The truth is, the struggle is still real and there are days when this perspective is the farthest thing from my mind, but when those moments come, I know just the antidote to my complaining!
Marian devotions are not a checklist of prayers or feasts. They're spiritual tools—each uniquely designed like the different tools in a Swiss Army knife—to help you navigate the complexities of faith and life.
And among these, the devotion to Our Lady of Sorrows stands out like a lighthouse in a stormy sea—guiding us, comforting us, and most of all, reminding us that even in sorrow, there's an underlying current of divine love and strength.
1. Mark the Feast of Our Lady of Sorrows on your calendar—September 15th.
2. Attend a Mass and / or reflect on the Seven Sorrows and how you can relate to them.
3. Ask for the intercession of Our Lady in finding the strength to navigate your trials.
Our journey starts during the Middle Ages. Even back then, the heart of Mary was held in high regard. But it was really the 17th century that put this devotion on the map, thanks to a French priest named Saint John Eudes.
Now, imagine Saint John as a spiritual explorer, venturing into uncharted territories of devotion. To him, the hearts of Jesus and Mary were two halves of the same spiritual locket. They were united in a divine love story, beginning with Mary's humble 'yes' to God, allowing the incarnation of Jesus. Eudes tirelessly championed these twin devotions.
Using his gift of communication, he breathed life into complex theological concepts, transforming them into messages that resonated with the everyday faithful. He penned Masses dedicated to the Hearts of Jesus and Mary, akin to composing a beautiful symphony in honor of divine love.
Resistance? Sure, he faced it. Yet, like a river persistently carving its path, his unwavering dedication eventually changed the landscape of our faith.
The devotion grew even more popular in the 20th century, after three shepherd children - Lucia, Francisco, and Jacinta, in Fatima, Portugal, reported seeing visions of the Virgin Mary.
In the first message, Mary asked the children to pray the Rosary daily, to bring an end to World War I. It was like a spiritual war cry, urging humanity to take up arms of prayer against the onslaught of war and conflict.
In the second message, Mary showed her heart, wounded by the thorns of humanity's sins. She asked for reparation, for acts of faith and love to heal these wounds. This was a call to mend the breaches, to stand firm against the enemy forces of sin.
The final message carried a promise of a miracle and a warning of another war if people continued to sin. It was a crucial dispatch from the front lines of faith, a call to arms for repentance and change.
Now, what’s the significance of this devotion for you and me, as Catholic men, in today’s modern world?
Mary's total surrender to God's will, her unflinching faith, and her steadfast love serve as an inspirational model for all believers, but particularly for us, men seeking to live out our Catholic faith in everyday life. Mary's "yes" to God is a powerful example of trust and obedience that we can strive to emulate in our own lives.
As fathers, husbands, and leaders in our communities, we play a crucial role in guiding our families and communities in faith. The devotion to the Immaculate Heart of Mary serves as a spiritual compass, directing us to lead with love, humility, and obedience, mirroring Mary's own attributes.
The devotion reminds us that each person is called to a life of holiness. Mary's Immaculate Heart, in its purity and sinlessness, serves as a reminder of this call and encourages us to strive for holiness in our own lives.
In today's often chaotic and challenging world, the devotion to the Immaculate Heart can provide a source of strength and resilience. Just as Mary remained steadfast in her faith through numerous trials, so too can we, Catholic men find encouragement to persevere in our own struggles.
The messages associated with the Immaculate Heart of Mary, particularly those from Fatima, emphasize the importance of prayer (especially the Rosary) and acts of reparation. These serve as important spiritual practices for us to incorporate into our daily lives.
This devotion is about drawing inspiration from Mary's life, shaping our journey as fathers and leaders. It's about steering our families, much like a ship navigating the vast ocean, guided by the light from our spiritual lighthouse - the Immaculate Heart of Mary.
In this voyage of life, fraught with storms of challenges and trials, let's turn our compass towards the Immaculate Heart. Let's chart a course that's marked by love, faith, and purity. After all, we're not just travelers on this journey. We're navigators, leading our families towards a deeper understanding of our faith and a closer connection with God.
As we embark upon July and hit the summer stride that includes baseball games, outdoor excursions, camping, fishing and maybe even a trip to your favorite vacation spot, have you ever wondered why we fill out time with these pursuits?
What is it about destinations such as the beach or the mountains that are so popular for vacation?
Do they provide a different perspective and beauty compared to what we encounter daily?
Are we really seeking beauty to help fulfill a yearning for renewal and energy?
What is it about physical challenge and exertion that is so appealing?
In my experience, these and other summertime activities feel like rituals of renewal. In the spiritual sense, the word renewal would likely conjure thoughts of Baptism or the restorative nature of Confession. However, many of us experience a renewal of energy, passion, purpose and deepening of relationships during the normal rhythms of summertime.
To me, it speaks to the fact that we are both body and spirit. We experience the goodness of God not only in our participation in the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, but also in the daily experiences of life in the natural world around us. As we embark on all that summer has to offer, let's keep in mind that renewal in body is a vain pursuit without renewal in the spirit as well.
As we explore new landscapes, make lasting memories, and enjoy the sun-kissed days, remember that prayer must be a constant companion, which brings a sense of peace and sanctity to all our experiences. We recall the wisdom handed down to us from sacred scripture
“But seek first the kingdom [of God] and his righteousness,* and all these things will be given you besides.” (Matthew 6:33)
“Early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place to pray.” (Mark 1:35)
Our summer vacation is an open canvas, waiting to be filled with unforgettable memories and experiences. As we take on the "Sanctify Your Summer" challenge, let's paint this canvas not just with colors of fun and relaxation, but also with shades of prayer and spirituality.
Here's to a summer that nourishes our body, refreshes our mind, and revives our spirit!
]]>Let's think about it in a slightly different way. Suppose you are a gardener, and Jesus is the ultimate "heart gardener." The devotion to His Sacred Heart is like giving Him permission to tend to your own heart, to pull out the weeds of sin, to sow seeds of virtue, and to water it with His grace so you can grow closer to Him and produce good fruits.
In a world of 5G and FOMO, we need a divine connection, compass and anchor that never changes and fails. We need a timeless symbol of love, devotion, and mercy.
This month, we’ll dive into the epic love story of the Sacred Heart of Jesus! We invite you to cast your anchor into the depths of the Sacred Heart. Our newly released Antique Silver centerpieces and crucifix, like seashells washed ashore, carry the echoes of His everlasting love and mercy. They serve as reminders that, despite the transience of our earthly existence, our souls can find solace and stability in the eternal embrace of the Sacred Heart.
Front and center is the Catholic Woodworker Original High-Definition Antique Silver Sacred Heart centerpiece, each glance at this centerpiece is a powerful reminder of Christ's boundless love, an invitation to love in return.
Featuring St. Joseph, the Terror of Demons himself, it's not just a rosary, it's your backup, your wingman in the ceaseless face-off against the evil one. The centerpiece of this rosary is unlike any other. Now made with antique silver, it showcases a 3D masterpiece of St. Joseph carrying the child Jesus, a symbol of strength and protection. Flip it over, and you'll discover the exquisite commissioned artwork of the chaste heart of St. Joseph by Miguel Veluz.
Engaging in the devotion to the Sacred Heart is a bit like joining a new hobby club or sport. You'll need to learn the rules, practice regularly, and make a sincere effort to improve. Here are some ways you can incorporate this devotion into your regular routine:
Remember, this devotion is not just about prayers and practices. It's about developing a personal relationship with Jesus, who loves you immensely. Keep that love in mind as you go through your day, and let it guide all that you do.
Reality hits!
You're more focused on trying to wrangle the kids versus focusing on intentional prayer. You deal with work and kids’ nap schedule.
If you’re like me, the Rosary is a piece of the spiritual life that’s looking for a forever home. As we've added kids into the family, as work schedules have changed and we've moved, one of the biggest challenges for me is figuring out the right spot for it in our life.
Telephone Poles and Starting Small
I've been trying a lot of different things lately. I've tried saying the Rosary in the morning while drinking my morning coffee or even on the road on the way to the office and that seems to have varying degrees of success.
I've also tried to do it in the evening with my wife and any kids who I can wrangle for long enough and again the same thing: varying degrees of success.
But here’s what I’ve realized.
Just like with diets, it's important to start small with prayer goals. Instead of committing to saying the entire Rosary, start with just one decade a day. It might seem insignificant, but over time, those small steps add up.
Think of it like running - you start with one telephone pole, then the next, and before you know it, you've run a mile. It's all about stacking those small goals to build momentum and eventually reach the bigger ones.
Right now, I'd say I pray the Rosary once a week at the minimum. But I also try several times a week.
It’s Also About Humility in Small Achievements
Being proud of small accomplishments might sound like pride, but it's actually an act of humility. It's being humble enough to say, "Hey, we did a good thing even though it's not as big as I wanted it to be."
The pride comes from saying, "I wanted it to be that big, but it's only this big."
We need to remember that it's not about us, but about God's grace working in us to achieve even the smallest goals.
Mind-wandering and Focusing on the Roses
I recently found out that I have pretty bad ADHD and I always wondered why I couldn't stay focused during the Rosary, even from a young age. And now, in hindsight, it makes a lot more sense why it was always a challenge sitting down for a prolonged period of time and actually trying to mentally focus.
One of the things that my mom always said, which stuck with me, is that every time you say a Hail Mary, it's like Mary's holding a rose for you from when you get to heaven. And so by doing that repetitively, and really thinking about it and praying through it, you're accumulating those roses up in heaven.
But you know what?
Sometimes letting my mind wander is not a bad thing. And with the ADHD thing, I used to always try to put walls around my mind. They're the rigid expectations I held about what prayer should look like, about what would qualify it as 'successful'. By redefining these constraints, I've learned to embrace a more flexible and personalized approach to prayer, which has enriched my spiritual journey in ways I never thought possible.
Lowering those walls and letting my mind wander a little bit allows me to see things or think of things that I might not have normally thought of.
God uses it to speak to me in a different way.
God’s Invitation
I believe God is inviting me to come and say the Rosary daily where possible, including my family. He’s inviting me to work towards the rosary being part of my daily routine, starting small, and growing that habit as the family continues to grow and evolve.
Take the First Step
Often, the negative reactions to our prayer efforts come from ourselves. We think that God sees us the way we see ourselves, not good enough: I wasn’t focused enough during the rosary, I got distracted at mass, I missed a day of my novena. We question whether these efforts have sufficient merit, and doubt that God is pleased with us. Have you ever felt like that?
It is so important to remember that God is a loving and patient Father who delights in our progress, no matter how small. We need to be able to look at ourselves with that same kind of compassion and patience, being content with the smallest accomplishments.
So take the first step today, say just one decade of the Rosary, and build from there.
"With God, nothing is small in the eyes of His love." - Saint Therese of Lisieux
Your Turn
Hello there! I'm Noah Vertefeuille. My journey began as a Catholic right from the cradle and life has graciously expanded to include the roles of being a loving husband and an active father to three wonderful children, all under the age of three. You might think it's a bit crazy, and you're probably right, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
Every day, I'm driven by a deep-rooted desire to make the world a better place and to help spread the influence of our faith. Luckily, I've discovered that I can use my knack for technology, marketing, and problem-solving as powerful tools in this mission. I love the feeling of knowing that I can use these talents to make a real difference. So here I am, embracing the chaos and striving to contribute in every way I can.
]]>All of these items are reminders of the truth about Jesus Christ and His Church. They ought to inspire prayer, and in the beginning they did just that. As the years have passed, these religious items have faded into the distance and become more like decorations. This didn’t sit well with me.
So I asked our email audience to share their tips with me on how they incorporate prayer into the rhythm of their work. Check them out below!
For Those Working In The Field
Field workers, such as police officers and lawyers, often spend a significant amount of time working outside of a traditional office environment. This can make it challenging to find time for prayer and incorporate it into their daily routine.
However, many field workers find that prayer can be a valuable tool for managing stress and maintaining a sense of inner calm during high-pressure situations.
For Those Who Have Desk Jobs
Software engineers, data analysts, and customer service representatives, etc. often spend the majority of their workday in front of a computer screen.
For Those Always Travelling
Traveling workers, such as salespeople or consultants, often spend a significant amount of time on the road or in the air. Prayer can be a helpful tool for managing stress and finding peace during a hectic travel schedule.
Over To You
What is your approach in incorporating prayer into your workday?
What tips from above are you going to apply today?
Helpful Resources:
Plan the size and shape of fortitude, faith, love, leadership and patience. Cut them out. Strengthen and repair the flaws with the Sacraments. Sand them down to reveal the real manhood. Chisel out the childhood wounds, bad choices and crippling fears. Join all the pieces together using God’s grace. Engrave God’s commandments on his heart. And finish with a coat of holiness.
And voila! A perfect Catholic father!
I wish.
You see, I have all these ideas and inspirations about how to bring the faith into my relationship with my children, how to teach them about the faith and to walk with them in their faith journeys. I have this ardent desire for them to know God and serve Him when they’re adults.
But I found myself making all these excuses. “I don’t know how to teach people. I don’t know how to be a mentor. I don’t know how to control the outcome.”
Then doubts creep in. “What if I’m not good enough? What if I’m not leading them in the faith? What if they choose to leave the faith?”
Before I’ve even started, I’ve already failed.
So unpacked all these and here’s what happened.
Firstly, it’s a lie that I don’t know how to teach. Saying that out loud, it sounds ridiculous. I’m a dad. I have some experience being a mentor. I've been a mentor to my eldest son for 12 years. I mentor people at work.
The thing is, I can control work or at least I feel like I can control work. So going after something at work doesn't scare me. I don’t doubt that I’m going to be successful at work. With work, I can bury myself in a project that can consume me for long periods of time because I’m confident it will lead to the desired outcome.
But I don’t do that with inspirations I get in the context of bringing the faith into my relationship with my children.
Well, it’s not that I don't ever do it, it’s just that there are a lot of things I feel inspired to do that I’ve never pursued. For instance, we could write letters to our sponsored children, but we don’t. We could visit the retired people in the nursing home we donate to, but we don’t. I could take them to adoration more often, but I don’t.
Why?
The only answer that I could give is it’s because I can’t control the outcome. I’m pretty sure I know what I want it to look like and I also know it won’t look like that. I’m defeated before I ever step foot on the field.
I can’t believe I do this, but I do.
I look at all these “great Catholics” that have a public life that’s shared on the internet and I compare myself to them. All the things that they do as Catholic fathers and Catholic mothers that I don't. And because I don't do those things, I’ve already kind of disqualified myself. So the things I feel inspired to do are counteracted by this lie that I’ve already failed. So of course, it feels overwhelming to try.
At the same time, I’m desperately afraid that if I don’t do those things, my kids won’t have a relationship with God. And if they don’t, what’s that going to mean about my identity?
The hardest part of connecting with my children and digging in too deep is the fear of what I’ll find. There are topics that I haven’t spoken to my oldest child about and one of the reasons I haven't done this is I’m afraid of what I’ll find if I do.
I could be afraid to discover that he doesn't love God the way I think he should. Or we have nothing in common. Can I handle that reality? Is it worth opening that door? I’m too afraid of finding out the truth so it’s easier to just keep that door closed.
Share your personal experiences, challenges, and triumphs as a faithful Catholic man to inspire and encourage others on their journey of faith. Let's build each other up and strengthen our community.
]]>Hey Friend,
I have wonderful memories of growing up and reading great books with my parents, but back then there weren't many illustrated books about our faith. I'm so glad this isn't the case anymore, and I'm really excited to share with you a new book by Loyola Press, co-authored by Scott Hahn called, Seven Clues: A Catholic Treasure Hunt.
I can't recommend enough the practice of reading to your children, and this is a great place to start. The book is fun & educational, the illustrations are excellent, and it does a wonderful job of sharing the beauty and wonder of the mass in a relatable way. Scott and Maura did such a great job with this story, and it's an honor to share it with you. Here are a few photos of Eric's boys enjoying the book that I wanted to share with you.
]]>Wow, I love hearing from all of you. Last week we sent you a survey to find out how we can support your mission in 2023. What a response! Thank you. Based on this feedback I have come up with the following list of potential new products for 2023:
Five years ago, I suffered a traumatic miscarriage. My husband and I had been hoping and praying for a baby for two years, and when I found out I was pregnant we were ecstatic. Three days later I was bleeding and two weeks after that, I miscarried. Devastated doesn't even begin to cover it. I was in complete darkness and began to exercise excessively as a way to cope (I told myself), but in reality, it was self-abusive and I was doing it to punish my body for not keeping my baby alive. I would eat as little as possible and run until my body hurt so badly I couldn't feel the emotional pain of losing our child.
Despite the physical harm I was causing to my body, Our Lady looked after me and pursued me. I generally felt absolutely nothing in prayer and my Sundays at Mass brought no consolation. It was darkness and hopelessness like I've never felt before. But I prayed the Rosary while I ran. I would run and run and run, and the decades would go by as I wept and ran, and ran and wept. I always prayed the Joyful Mysteries because I was very hung up on the fact that Mary experienced a miraculous conception. In my mind, if God did that once, He'd be able to do it again, and maybe if I kept praying the rosary He would answer my prayers for a baby, and maybe He'd let me keep my next baby.
After months of near-total spiritual darkness, I hit a wall. I physically couldn’t go any more, and I knew I needed to turn to God. But the reality was, I’d never been far from Him. His Mother was constantly beckoning to me and I was unknowingly answering her call through the Rosary. I was kept close to Our Lord through the Rosary and even though at the time I felt totally abandoned, on the day our baby should’ve been born I knew with certainty that God had never been far from me. He’d always been there, waiting for me to look past my pain and see Him there waiting to comfort me.
Our Lady has consistently brought me great comfort in our infertility journey. I know the Rosary plays a huge part in that. Even on days when I don’t feel like praying it, the Blessed Mother has a way of reminding me the good that prayer does, not only for my own soul, but for the souls of so many others. Praying the Rosary has been my lifeline. I have offered so many Rosaries for others going through infertility, and even though God has not yet answered my prayers for biological children, He has answered the prayers I’ve prayed for others. I know our Heavenly Mother is bringing all my prayers, and the prayers of all her children, to the throne of her Son, and without a doubt I know she is wrapping us all in her mantle.
]]>Friend,
"When Mary has struck her roots in a soul, she produces there marvels of grace, which she alone can produce, because she alone is the fruitful Virgin who never has had, and never will have, her equal in purity and in fruitfulness."
On October 19th I will begin my consecration renewal journey. For those of you who haven't done it yet OR have attempted but never completed it, I have a few recommendations:
For the rest of you, here is a complete list of Marian Feast Days and the suggested start date. December 8th is the feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe. Consecration preparation would start on November 5th. Here is a complete schedule:
]]>Eric and I took the boys camping this weekend along with a good friend of ours. We had an awesome weekend, and made some great memories. I wanted to share a few lessons I learned leading up to and during the weekend:
Friend,
Eric and I took the boys camping this weekend along with a good friend of ours. We had an awesome weekend, and made some great memories. I wanted to share a few lessons I learned leading up to and during the weekend.
The three of us had this shared interest in taking the boys camping. We started talking about it in the spring and when the school year was done, we looked at the family calendars and quickly realized we needed to do a better job planning. The entire summer calendar was already full! So we looked at the fall, and picked a weekend. We all agreed with the support of our wives that something was going to pop up that weekend, and that we'd have to say no in order to say yes to camping. By the week of we had no less than 5 major conflicts: Fall Festival at Church, 2 baseball games, a football game, and Tech Week for Christian Youth Theatre.
We knew this was important, we planned ahead, and we guarded that time. No, it didn't go according to plan, but camping happened, the mission was accomplished. Whether it's daily prayer time, a holy hour of adoration, a weekend retreat, or faith-filled guy's weekend, it won't happy if you don't plan it and guard that time.
Last month I shared a personal story about How God Moves Us. I have been slowly working through a book that came out of that experience... I'm only on page 40, but each page is a goldmine.
The message is this: The Holy Spirit is essential to our Christian life and is needed to progress on the path on which God leads us. The Holy Spirit inspires, but we have to be disposed to notice and respond to these inspirations.
]]>Last month I shared a personal story about How God Moves Us. I have been slowly working through a book that came out of that experience (In the School of the Holy Spirit by Fr. Jacques Philippe). I'm only on page 40, but each page is a goldmine. The general message is this: The Holy Spirit is essential to our Christian life and is needed to progress on the path on which God leads us. The Holy Spirit inspires, but we have to be disposed to notice and respond to these inspirations. In the book, the author references a powerful quote from St. John of the Cross:
"Take care to preserve your heart in peace; let no happening of this world upset it... even if everything here below crumbled apart and all things were against us, there would be no use in upsetting ourselves over it, for that upset would bring us more harm than benefit."
The author goes on to write, "The greatest harm that upsetting ourselves does to us is that it makes us incapable of following the impulses of the Holy Spirit". Even as I write this on a Friday afternoon I'm thinking about the 100 things I had on my todo list this week that didn't get done, and I'm feeling anxious about the busy weekend schedule packed with theatre rehearsals, sports practices, and games. I'm worrying.
When I am worrying, I am not listening. I'm not noticing God's presence or looking for those inspirations from the Holy Spirit. Instead, I'm busy trying to control those parts of my life that I'm worried about.
Schedule 10 minutes this weekend for prayer. Specifically, offering to God everything that you are worried about. Say them out loud, be specific, admit you can't control them even thought you want to, and admit you need God's help letting go. For some of us, that list is long. Trust me, it's worth it.
]]>It is our mission to equip families for battle in the modern world. Spiritual warfare is life long battle which means our customers need weapons that last a lifetime. As we continue to grow and learn, we are constantly optimizing our business and operations. There are 3 areas we are focused on that will translate to improvements that benefit you as a customer.
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]]>It is our mission to equip families for battle in the modern world. Spiritual warfare is life long battle which means our customers need weapons that last a lifetime. As we continue to grow and learn, we are constantly optimizing our business and operations. There are 3 areas we are focused on that will translate to improvements that benefit you as a customer.
Last week we were featured in an article on Catholic News Agency in response to a recent attack on the rosary in the Atlantic.
It is no surprise that the militaristic language of the Church can be misunderstood, especially when it comes to the rosary. Here at The Catholic Woodworker our tagline is "Spiritual Weapons Built for Battle", and our mission is, "Equipping Families for Battle in the Modern World". This comes straight from sacred scripture (Read Ephesians 6), and the Catechism:
…The great figures of prayer of the Old Covenant before Christ, as well as the Mother of God, the saints, and he himself, all teach us this: prayer is a battle. Against whom? Against ourselves and against the wiles of the tempter who does all he can to turn man away from prayer, away from union with God.
~CCC 2726
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"To spread devotion to the Sacred Heart, and be obedient to the Blessed Virgin Mary’s call to pray the Rosary daily" "To stay faithful despite the hostile world as an example to my family and for my own salvation."
" My mission is to lead my family to God. I'm going to consecrate myself to Saint Joseph this fall. The rosary beads I intend to use for prayer in my home. I want more religious items in my home so that our faith isn't a mystery to my children."
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Last week we celebrated the Assumption of Mary. Monday we celebrated the Queenship of Mary. Let us remember Mary's call to arms at Fatima and so many other Marian Apparitions: PRAY THE ROSARY DAILY. The rosary changed my life. I discovered the unconditional love of Mary, and she in turn led me straight to Jesus. This is why I sign all my correspondents with "To Jesus through Mary". If you are serious about joining the fight through daily prayer, there is no better way than with the rosary.
Last week I shared a personal story about how God pulled me out of desolation one small grace at a time. It’s really incredible what a difference a week made, and if it weren’t for this blog, I might have missed it. I made a personal commitment to write an email every week this year. It took writing last week’s email for me to see just how much God had moved me, and the particular moments when it happened. You can read last week’s story here.
This week I wanted to talk about the first of those movements. As I mentioned earlier in the year, I started a 1 year program with Souls & Hearts along with 8 other men. It’s been a journey for sure. I am blessed to be partnered with one of those men for regular checkins. On Tuesday I reached out just letting him know I was struggling. He reminded me of Psalm 62,
God alone is my rock and salvation,
My fortress; I shall never fall.
This verse moved me ever so slightly out of the darkness, and opened me up to additional graces from God later that week. It reminded me that God was still God, and He was with me even if I couldn’t see Him. We are never alone, but we can feel alone quite often. It is in that loneliness that we are most vulnerable. Whether it’s a fear of judgment or rejection, or the lie of shame that tells us we aren’t enough, its strength exists only in the darkness. When we bring it into the light, it loses its power over us. Sometimes this looks like going to confession. Other times it looks like telling a friend what we’re struggling with. Still other times it looks like bringing that shame or fear to Christ himself in adoration or the sacrifice of the mass.
In the context of sharing it with a friend, I want to make one point clear. This doesn’t look like telling a friend how awful or terrible the people around us are. This offers no consolation because there’s no vulnerability. It doesn’t even look like asking them for advice or problem solving as if that fear or shame only exists because you haven’t taken a certain action yet. What it DOES look like is being vulnerable enough to let God, let that person see you as you are without judgment. It lets the light in, and even though you haven’t moved yet, that fear can begin to subside. Next week I’ll share one of the other moments of grace that moved me out of that place of desolation.
]]>I have a story I want to share for all of you out there who feel far away from the Lord, lost in the desert, in a fog or another, similar mental/spiritual state. This is a story about little bread crumbs from Heaven that led me out of that place of desolation and back into awareness of God’s love and grace.
]]>I hope this email finds you well. I suspect that many of you find yourself in a similar situation as me. Summer has come to an abrupt end, and the busy schedule, the activities, the back-to-school preparations and first week jitters are upon us. For those of you detached from the school calendar, pray for the rest of us.
I have a story I want to share for all of you out there who feel far away from the Lord, lost in the desert, in a fog or another, similar mental/spiritual state. This is a story (the first part, at least) about little bread crumbs from Heaven that led me out of that place of desolation and back into awareness of God’s love and grace.
A week ago Eric (our Director of Operations) and I traveled to Illinois to visit our friends at 5 Stones. If you don’t know who they are, you should read their story here. They are a key partner in our success story, and we were really excited to finally meet them in person. It was a rush, and brought me such joy as we walked the floor and saw the excitement in everyone’s faces that were part of this magnificent operation. The day was packed full of introductions, strategy meetings, and lots of laughs. Eric and I left Illinois fulfilled and thoroughly inspired to continue the work of our mission. I am grateful to the entire team at 5 Stones for so graciously hosting us, and giving us a window into the beautiful work they do. I went to bed Monday excited for the week ahead.
Tuesday morning, however, was more like a hangover than a continuation of the amazing day we had 12 hours prior. I was greeted by what felt like a mountain of emails, the demands of my day job and the family hustle preparing for the start of school, and within minutes the joy I had experienced yesterday was gone. Wednesday was no better. I was spiraling fast, with no signs of leveling out. I couldn’t catch my bearings. Thursday night I went to adoration with the hope of finding something in my bible that would rescue me from this fog, but little comforted me. I wrote a prayer to Mary in my journal, and returned home. For 4 days I had worked frantically with little peace, bouncing from one task to the next. The simplest task was a heavy burden, and there seemed to be no grace available to persevere. I was lost.
At some point during the week I remember thinking to myself, “What happened? How did I go from inspired and joy filled on Monday to this?” On Sunday afternoon we prayed our weekly family rosary, and I took a much needed nap. I woke up feeling refreshed. I felt calm. That frantic urge had subsided a bit. We spent the evening together as a family, playing cards, bouncing on the trampoline, and reading a few chapters from a new book series. Sunday night I sat down in the living room with a bourbon and opened my book to read for a bit.
This is where the story gets good. The book I opened is called, “In the School of the Holy Spirit” by Jacques Philippe. As we said our goodbyes Monday, one of the gentleman we visited at 5 Stones gave me this book and insisted I read it. So there I was in my reading chair next to my beautiful wife, soaking in the words of Jacques Philippe about the workings of the Holy Spirit, when the pieces of the puzzle started coming together. Here is the text that hit home:
“...Each act of fidelity to an inspiration is rewarded by more abundant graces, especially by more frequent and stronger inspirations. The soul is drawn steadily on to greater faithfulness to God, a clearer perception of his will, and greater ease in accomplishing it.”
As I read these words, I reflected on the week I’d had, and the little bread crumbs of grace I accepted from God along the way. I say breadcrumbs not because that’s all that was available, but because it’s all I accepted in those moments of desolation. There were at least 5 examples that I could remember of where the Holy Spirit inspired me. Each simple act of fidelity led me out of that desolation and into a clearer perception of God’s love for me and how he was moving in my life. In those moments I was hardly aware of them, but looking back I’m amazed at how God moved me. In the coming weeks, I’ll break open each of these moments in greater detail.
I hope this personal story blesses you. Thank you for listening. If you can relate to my story from this week, know that you are not alone in your struggle. God is with you always. Even when you can't see Him, and event when you aren't looking for Him. Be assured of our prayers for you this week, and please pray for us, too.
Do you see yourself the way God sees you or do you see yourself as Adam saw himself after the fall, naked and afraid?
Yesterday I was driving our boys to spend a few days with my parents. All was well until 5 minutes before our exit. Traffic came to a complete stop. I waited a minute wondering if maybe there was 1 lane construction. No movement. Then I notice some cars in the emergency passthrough lane attempting to turn around. “That’s not good”, I thought to myself. I check the traffic view on Google Maps and sure enough, there’s an accident a mile ahead. We were stuck. No way forward, no way back. Fortunately, I wasn’t pressed for time so after I came to peace with this temporary reality, I decided to catch up on videos I missed from Matt Fradd. Little did I know how much I needed to hear the inspired conversation Matt had with Fr. John Burns. If you’d like to watch for yourself, you can go here (starting at 1:15:59, but the entire interview is beautiful).
During this part of the conversation, Fr. John describes the internal tension that exists when someone who truly loves us gazes upon us. It’s difficult to receive. Matt relates this tension to Song of Songs 2:14:
Imagine God is in your midst whispering these beautiful words to you, and they reach into the depths of your soul. Part of you wants to run to Him, to embrace this perfect love, to pour your heart out to Him, to be seen, known, loved, and understood. But there’s this other part of you that withdraws, that hides in the clefts of the rock, in the covert of the cliff, concealing your face. You are afraid: afraid of rejection, of condemnation, of your own reflection. Like St. Peter, you turn away and hide your face, “Depart from me, for I am a sinful man, O Lord.” ~Luke 5:8.
Can you relate to this tension? Do you struggle to see yourself the way God sees you? Do you really know how God sees you? What struck me most when reflecting on these passages from scripture was the impact this has on how I look at others. If I can’t see myself the way God sees me, how can I see others that way? On the surface it seems possible to love others better than I love myself, but is it true?
I shared with you a few months ago that I was beginning a year long journey in the Resilient Catholics Community getting to know myself better so that I can have a greater capacity to love others. I am slowly seeing the first fruits of this work. This particular conversation between Fr. John and Matt Fradd has inspired me to make a daily effort to accept the Lord’s loving gaze on me, and in-turn look upon my loved ones with that same gaze, delighting in the sound of their voice and the sweetness of their face.
Last week I began a one year program in the Resilient Catholics Community lead by Dr. Peter Malinoski at soulsandhearts.com. Souls and Hearts was developed to meet the needs of practicing Catholics who struggle with the everyday challenges of life. Grounded in a Catholic anthropology, Souls and Hearts' contributors draw from the psychological sciences to offer Catholics mental health education and information in an online format.
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I would greatly appreciate your prayers as I embark on this journey. Part of me is excited, and part of me is scared that it won't have the impact I hope it will. Be assured of our prayers for all of you as well. I am so grateful for all of you.
I just returned from School Mass where our pastor prayed the full Consecration of Russia prayer. I wasn't prepared for it. It was beautiful, sad, and powerful. It reminded me of the times in the Old Testament when the Israelites repented and returned to God. I urge you this day to pray this prayer with your family & friends. Here is an excerpt with the a link to the full prayer below:
Today we remember the Annunciation. Let us proclaim "fiat" to the Lord at every moment of our lives just as Mary, Our Mother, did! Many of the great saints of the 19th and 20th century had a strong devotion to Mary. Her example influenced every aspect of their lives, and this was only possible by developing a relationship with her. For me, it was through the rosary and reading the Mystical City of God that I got to know Mary. Through that relationship I got to know her son, Jesus Christ. If you are sick, if you are lost, if you are lonely, if you are discerning a major life decision... CALL YOUR MAMA!
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